But damn. Yeah, those are basically 4 adults that behave so badly towards a 16 years old girl who lost her father just a few years ago. She married an insecure, immature man who clearly did not raise his children well - 20 & 18yos damaging each others property purposefully? NTA. The way the movie unfolds, you assume for most of the 'prank' that it's real and the kids are just as confused as Mia. Her needs weren't considered when her mom got with a new man shortly after her dad died. My stepsister had an argument with her brother and ruined his gaming console when he was out. exactly what I was thinking to the OP oh honey I just want to give you a hug .. Not by a long shot. In case anyone else was curious, I looked up The Lodge and it's literally about two teenage stepchildren psychologically torturing their new stepmom until she has a complete mental breakdown. This story could have had a much different outcome if the kids had been cuddled more and coddled less! Okay, but the point is that not every household can afford one bedroom for every child, and calling it odd, and saying that pubescent children really need their own room is totally inaccurate and not a reality for a lot of the world. Heck, my two little boys (of then 2 and 5 when we moved), that have to share a room together, got the biggest room. Your mother failed to protect you from SD's insecurities and SS's cruelty. AITA for uninviting my stepdad from my wedding so my brothers could come? When you are 16 there aren't a lot of things that one, "Allows," to happen to oneself. I recommend taking context into consideration before making a fool of yourself, not after. If your mom ever wants to live with you again, tell her the two adult children need to find their on places to live. Thank goodness you have your uncle to help. Dont talk to your mom or the steps again.
You really, really don't want them anywhere, even in distant orbit, when you bring a child into the world. Getting locked out of your own room is kinda nuts. Madam, you have chosen your new husband and your step children over your daughter, time and time again. NTA! Dorm rooms? If sharing is unavoidable there has to be some kind of schedule where each teen gets their own time/space. This is horrible. Good luck! Your step siblings are all assholes, more-so your step brother since he implied that your were implicit in his childish prank. Misery loves company. Live your life, and do whatever is necessary to keep your little one safe. Privileged much?
You do not have to tolerate disrespect because it's coming from family. And once you get emancipated/have a custody situation figured out go NC with her and her husband's family permanently.
You step sis is an adult, so is brother. I am so happy you got out of the situation. Archived post. Stay with your uncle. You deserve a family that cares about you all the time, that shows you respect, that listens, and that treats you like you belong. Not really.
I hope you can stay with your uncle forever, and go no contact with her soon. Just wondering why you're questioning OP (the child) and not the actual adults in the house. But seriously, I never understand why fAmiLiEs always want the abused/wronged party to capitulate to the a-holes in a situation. NTA. I would keep those step siblings as far from you and your mother and baby as possible. Yes. Your life will have less conflict.
Tell her honestly how you feel and what you need from her to restore your faith in her. Also, keep them the duck away from your baby. I'm glad you have family to support you, and I'm so sorry for your loss. She's mad at my stepdad and stepsister and the whole family is in conflict because of me moving out though I could've agreed to get it fixed and let it go. It came up because I'm expecting my first child and he asked about trying to figure out them meeting. If dad needed another woman to persuade him to leave, he didn't have much character. You don't need that negativity in your life. I am willing to bet your uncle and other family members were wanting to help you sooner but felt pressured by your mother and SD. NTA here your mother is for allowing this to go on so long. For making it my hill to die on or am I exaggerating?". She probably just graduated HS. NTA, sweetheart! It's only when you learn the extent the went to to fuck with Mia that you realise just how much they hate her and how cruel they are. You are right. His kids are technically adults and they are still breaking each others toys.
Both your step-dad and mom have failed all three of you. Except: I would've left too. My guess is that it was previously just the stepfamilys house, and they refuse to change to accommodate OP beyond the very basic necessities. While your stepfather removed all your memories of your dad, which was likely traumatizing at the time, your mom did nothing! Im sure your father would be very proud of how youve turned out. Of course you want to leave.
The family your mother married into seems toxic. NTA. As far as your fathers parents, what do you care what they think? Your mom has done nothing for you, hasn't protected you from your stepdad's jealousy and insecurity or fought for you (it's ridiculous that they give your stepbrother the bigger room when two people are living in a smaller one, and the fact that you can be locked out of it at your stepsister's whim indicates he wouldn't even give you that if he didn't have to because you essentially don't have a room, just a bed in your stepsister's room. However, I am assuming from the fact that you still speak with him and refer to him as "dad" and not specifically step-dad or even his first name, that you at least have a decent (if not good) relationship with him. I would be afraid they would treat my child the same way they treated you and your mom. NTA. Your step-siblings sound toxic af. This entire post is making my blood boil and I would've thrown major hands if I were in OP's shoes. Great premise, great performances, amazing ending. Not so much worried about anyone being an asshole here. Some day you might decide to forgive her, you might not. NTA I'm so glad your family is angry at your mother. There comes a point in life when that just isn't true anymore. My aunt and uncle had problems with the number of rooms vs kids but they ended up putting the only girl (14) in a room and two boys ended up sharing, even though they're like 6 years apart (17 and 11). I f25 along with my two brothers Dean & Kevin (both 30s) went through rough time during our parents divorce, mom got married to my stepdad and we lived with him for years. It sounds very chaotic, not just in this incident, but most of the time. All of it. He may. Stay with your uncle and enjoy your space and freedom. That's not a helpful attitude. Also the stepfather is obviously a terrible parent.
You didn't move out because of one incident, you moved out because it's a toxic environment that has proven to be increasingly hostile and violent towards you. Years ago. Im the most disappointed in your mother. Yeah, but that's the kind of thing they had always wished on my mom. Your siblings sound awful--esp step sister. Ignore OP Your mother has put her needs before yours and it's time for you get out of that place permanently. T F J U S T HAPPEND, M O M I S S U S. NTA. She is 18. Message the mods if you have any questions or concerns. She sounds out of this world selfish. As theyve grown theyve just looked for any evidence to back up the narrative they have already created.
The sentence they are "correcting" already implies that; the correction is totally disingenuous, unnecessary, and just a way for the poster to boost their ego by issuing an unmerited finger-wagging. She has messed up her kids from a young age.
For real, sharers should always get a bigger room, that's just common sense. Maybe they are not 100% at fault because their own mother poisoned them, but the bottom line is that they are poisoned human beings now, and you have to protect yourself and loved ones.
They have instead let these toxic step siblings run your life and the fact that you had to cater to your stepfathers feelings is despicable. That was a toxic situation you needed to be out of. Jfc. Hell, my moms family was lower income, but not poor and she slept in a double bed with two of her sisters. Maybe reassure him that you're glad he will be your child's grandfather. She would have to go to court to get emancipation or have a report made to social servicesif she has moved out then she'll get returned to the same situation. Seriously, big props to the uncle.
May I ask, have you asked them point-blank what their problem is? You can't be serious. NTA. Seriously?
FABULOUS BINGO: GET A 5 FREE BONUS WITH NO DEPOSIT REQUIRED, One person said: Your stepdad obviously cares about you and is PAYING for your wedding. I'm sorry. I'm glad that your mom's family is standing up for you. I literally freaked out because I definately want my brothers to be at my wedding so badly and I tried talking to them but they were being stubborn, after talking to my fiance I had no choice but to politely uninvite my stepdad and sending him an email stating why. You deserve respect and they are not giving you that and shame on your mom because you are her biological daughter. Oh, you relate to those kids because their mum died and you're convinced the new girlfriend is to blame? We don't actually know, all we know is that OP is a frustrated teenager who is looking for a place to vent and she decided to get that tidbit off her chest in the middle of her post (as it's not really relevant to the larger point of the post). 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I hope OP sees this! Thats vile. You are better at standing up for yourself. It's about time your father acknowledges the truth that there will be no relationship with you and his kids. When she described the gift she made her dad, ugh you can just tell how much it meant to her and how much she misses and cares for him. This is a very privileged look at the situation. It sounds like you're basically a guest in your room and are only ever allowed to be there to sleep, but other than that it's your stepsister's. Good thing she is an ex now although it took my dad a little while to leave her for good
Step sis knowingly damaged her brother's properly, and punished you because he lied to get you to help him destroy something of hers. Her dad was gone so maybe she needed the private space more than the stepsiblings to cry/process/be alone. I agree, this is when OP's mother should have stepped in, if not sooner. This was a decades long pattern of behavior that will continue if they are allowed access. The post literally says he fought in court over this and tried to get them therapy, what else exactly are you expecting? NTA. NTA. The way they're treating you with regard to him, especially on Father's Day, is reprehensible. Your stepsiblings suck and your mom & stepdad aren't much better. I think she meant that the mom allowed it.
Even if they did, you'd be justified in refusing. NTA. that goes for your stepsiblings among each other and you with the resentment you carry for the fact that your dad has been replaced so fast in your eyes. Nta She stood aside and let your stepfather and step siblings treat you horribly. Your stepsiblings need serious psych help. I literally freaked out because I definitely want my brothers to be at my wedding so badly and I tried talking to them but they were being stubborn.". I am sorry. I would do this and It will be a real wakeup call for her. NTA. ", To top it off, Patty McCormack is (jokingly) spanked at the end! She didnt even say its mostly boys who need bigger beds. (So was I by then though.). Suddenly grandparents and relatives alike are pissed and entitled to see the blood of the other blood they didnt give 2 shits about. I m sorry but I couldnt even read your post to the end cuz its so full of drama. Many families cant afford for everyone to have their own room and forcing partners to move to the living room isnt a solve either. She lost her dad, had no private space, dealing with a tempermental step sister, continuous conflict.. That's too much. Oh but the years and years of emotional and verbal abuse is ok coming from his kids and his ex partner? His bio kids have been groomed so well to be so full of hate for you both. Was it unbearable?
They all sound toxic. She is rightshe has done nothing, absolutely nothing she should have done to avoid this outcome which surely would have come the day OP turned 18 anyway.
The stepbrother is a lying little weasel who hogs the big bedroom, lies to OP about permission to have his sisters paints, and then blames her for giving them to him. Or at least legally placed in his care until you turn 18. They're adults in their 30s now. I wish you the best. Best to leave now when it's smashed property rather than broken bones.
NTA that girl sounds absolutely horrible and needs some therapy. That's your baby. They need to grow up really. So no sympathy from me about having to share a room, I completely agree that most had to share a room with their siblings. Your situation was already toxic once your stepdad refused to let you keep your fathers belongings and your mom didnt stand up for you. judging by his comment history hes says shit to get downvoted, Causing needless drama. anyway, you call them by what they are, twisted monsters, and his father should've known, I mean he saw how they treated your mother, so it's not like you're lying about them being vindictive people, NTA and good for you for cut all contact with them. NTA op. What if one is locked out of the room at certain times, because the other uses it as a studio. He wanted them in therapy before that but their mom said no and the courts mostly sided with her. Info- Do they as adults in their 30s actually believe that your mother cursed their mom? Lol I would make the closet a bedroom nook for a bedroom sharing sibling I guess, Haha.
Youre right, the judgement was decided well before we read the flower box was destroyed. Did I say they shouldn't be expected? It is relatable for you, but still not good. "They shouldn't come. She's allowed your stepsiblings to completely railroad you. NTA. What you describe does tell us they are still consumed by anger / hate / bitterness - and as such they would present a risk to your newborn. But, I firmly believe that some people just come into the world with something fundamentally broken in them and it causes them to act out against anyone and everyone. Just can't entertain guests. I have always shared a room with my sister, and shes 26 now and Im 22. Disappointing as it might be it's time to go no contact. It sounds like this was the stepsisters room, and the poster, whose dad only died 3 years earlier, moved in rather quickly after his death. I get believing that as a kid, bc kids are dumb in some ways, but as an adult? to think you're the youngest and most mature definitely NTA for drawing your boundaries and doing what's best for you. My mother and my 3 aunt shared one room with double bunkbeds whule my 4 uncles shared one room with double bunkbeds. You can heal there. It says he put them in therapy to cope with the death of their mom.sounds like years of BS and abuse up until then..and yes therapy definitely isnt a cure all.I didnt say hes a shitty parent I said hes an AH which he is..I said what I said..he has audacity to even suggest his abusive crotch demons be introduced to her child.it sounds like hes minimizing or choosing to sweep it under the rug all together and getting in his feelings when she chooses otherwise. I'm glad you have good people like your uncle to defend you. It's beyond favouritism, it's diminishing OP into someone constantly asking permission to be in her own home, and less important than her stepsister's paints. They told my mom they hoped she would die a slow and painful death. I'd definitely stay the hell away from that mess.
